Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Wisdom Wednesday #7 - A Good Man

Our study of Proverbs 31 brings us to this verse:

נ 23 Her husband is known at the city gates
        when he sits with the leaders of the land.

How, we may ask, does this apply to a woman today?  We learn from this verse that this woman's husband is respected and he is wise.   He has a good reputation, and associates with other wise men.  

Selecting a husband is so important because G-d wants us to stay married forever.  He will lead a single woman to the man He wants for her...if she will seek His wisdom.  

Because I married at age 17, a week after graduating from high school, and because I did not seek G-d's wisdom, that marriage was not a good one, and ended in divorce.  Unfortunately, I married again, and it ended in divorce also.  Can you imagine how I felt with two divorces behind me?  

G-d hates divorce, and I hate it, too. Unfortunately, I did not know how to recognize a "good" man...a wise man.  I was fond of saying, "Marriage is like having your teeth drilled without Novocaine."  I determined that I was incapable of being married, and resigned myself to life as a single woman.  I never intended to marry again.  

I didn't date.  All I did was work at my job and study the Bible.  I spent hours alone with G-d, seeking His face and wisdom, worshiping Him, and listening to Him.  During that period of time, I was led to Messianic Judaism.  I never, ever dreamed G-d would give me my own, personal rabbi.  When G-d put us together almost eight years ago, it was very clear He desired for us to marry and minister together.  It has been a beautiful and fruitful marriage.  Because of my desire for wisdom, I grew to know and recognize what a "good" man looks and acts like.  

During the years I was growing in His wisdom, I prayed for my two daughters (from my first marriage) to find good, wise men as husbands.  Even though I didn't know how to recognize one myself, G-d honored that prayer.  When I was praying for them, I didn't imagine G-d would bring one for me, too.  Both of my daughters have wonderful husbands, and I am so thankful that G-d put them together.

Whether you are single, divorced, young or old, it is important to seek G-d's face and wisdom about a husband.  He will hear and honor your prayers.  My advice is to read Proverbs daily, and make notes about what a wise man does.  Also make notes about what a foolish man does.  If I had followed this advice, I'd have never married the first two men.  (This advice applies in other areas also, such as friendships and business relationships.)

Remember, it is never too late to become wise.  I am proof of that statement, and G-d can use broken vessels, like me.  He can put the pieces back together and make something beautiful.

  I'm sharing this post with:

Spiritual Sundays

Let's Get Social Sunday

A Wise Woman Builds

 Hearts for Home
Favorite Things 


  1. God Bless. Thank you so much for helping to make the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop so much fun Hugs!

  2. It is amazing how God works in mysterious ways to put two people together. Even through errors in judgement or what ever you might call it, God provided you with a good man.